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Nice Guys : The Benjamin Franklin Effect

Nice guys! How do you get a woman in which you are attracted to like you? Do you give them lots of attention? Treat them out to dinner? Shower them with gifts? Always pay for the bill? How often have you gone that extra mile for someone only to have it blow up in your face later on? What if I told you there was a fool proof way to properly gauge a woman’s genuine affection for you without you putting yourself in too much of a compromising position? Well wish no more nice guys I have just that for you today. This technique is called “The Benjamin Franklin Effect” and is today’s topic of discussion. Today you are going to discover how to use this effect to your advantage and see whether the object of your affection is even worth your time.

So what is this effect and why should I care?

The Benjamin Franklin Effect (BFE) is a psychological finding that says that a person who has invested an effort into another person is more likely to invest even more into that same person. So what does this mean? Think about every time you’ve treated a woman you like out to dinner, paid the bill, gave her gifts. Your initial investment into that person will usually lead to another investment. Which means more dates, fancy gifts, or favors for that person in addition you becoming even more attracted to them.

How does this help me with women?

Glad you asked nice guy! Now that you know the principles of the B.F.E, you can now compare and contrast your level of investment and hers.  If you find yourself investing where your woman isn’t you know for a fact that her attraction to you isn’t there. This saves you a lot of wasted time, money, and energy in the dating game and can even help you land a real catch quicker.

The method isn’t difficult and you don’t even have to change your current approach. All you need to do is pay attention to her actions to gauge her level of investment. However nice guys I feel I must warn a few of you when it comes to effectively gauging a woman’s investment in you. In no way, shape, or form should you take any kind of physical contact as an investment. Hugs, pecks on the cheek and even sex can are often misconstrued by the gullible.

True investments are her picking up the tab, getting you a gift, or even taking you out… Basically anything you’d do for her. Now while you may say “Well these things aren’t exactly what a woman should do for me.” allow me to drag you out of the 1950’s and into the magical world of equality. There may be some extremely old fashion women out there (never met one but hey) however I doubt you’ll have one that likes you and not do something for you just because. Keep in mind the B.F.E isn’t only for gauging a woman’s affections to you but it also works on friendships, family, even work related relationships. It may just change the way you interact with everyone around you. Enjoy nice guys.

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Nice Guys: Money & It’s Effects On You.

Stemming from my last post, the topic of money has started to gain a bit of popularity as of late. Money has been on the minds of many (me included) over the past few days and the situations vary but the questions ultimately ask the exact same thing.

“Where is all the money and how can I get it?”

Money Has It’s Adverse Effects…

Money will forever be to root of your problems, even when you think it has absolutely nothing to do with it. Sure there will be those isolated incidents but the truth is those problems are far and between. It’s not until you really stop and think about it, that you realize money has a lot more control of your life than you care to admit.

It effects every aspect of your life and lets be clear. I mean every aspect that you can think of. Here is a small run down.

  • How you live: Let’s face it. Unless you live on an uninhabited island you need money to live normally. The less you have the worse your living conditions.
  • What you eat: TV dinners have their place in the world, but it you have money. Chances are you will be eating healthier meals instead of heavily processed foods.
  • What you do: Money is the difference between being a couch potatoes or the guy goes skiing every weekend. The difference between being a workaholic and someone who controls their leisure time.
  • Who you associate with: They say “Birds of a feather flock together.” and let me tell you it is 1000% true. It is no different with those with little or no money.
  • What you own: Although I am not a material individual, lack of money obviously controls what kind of car you drive, the kind of clothes you wear, and where you live.
  • Your health: Lack of money can be depressing…literally. Those that are struggling are probably dealing with poor health due to the stress over money. What’s worse is they can’t afford to be treated properly either due tot he lack of funds.
  • Your relationships: The difference of being single, and being with someone. In my last post I covered a very touchy topic concerning women, money, and you. Again it’s been proven, more money makes you more attractive. Unfortunate, but true.
  • What you think: Not having money is the difference between “Yes I can” and “No I can’t”. Pretty depressing I know.

By now I am sure you are seeing just how much money plays a role in your life and it’s not until you have a serious abundance of it that you are truly ever free from it.

What Can I Do To Get More?

  While I am by no means an expert at making money (because I am no billionaire) I do have over ten years experience in the topic. I have had my fair share of failures, success, and mediocre results. I won’t pretend to know it all (because lord knows there are so many wannabes) but I will tell you what I have learned thus far.

  • Pay Yourself: If you have an income (Job, Self Employment, Etc) try to pay yourself about 30% of it each time you get paid. The 70% can go to necessities while you keep the rest.
  • Dream Big: If you are looking to vastly improve your income, then you have to have a big vision of it. Reason being is because it’s actually something to work for versus something that becomes so insignificant that it’s no longer thought about.
  • Start Small: Take baby steps with whatever you start to undertake, whether it be a second job, business, whatever. It will get overwhelming if you try to do too much too fast. Create a pace that works for you and begin.
  • Actually Do Something: I have had my share of procrastination (and still do) and it’s so easy to sit and think about the who, why, what, where, and how. In fact it’s one of the biggest roadblocks and one of the hardest to get through. Do something everyday and you will see results.
  • Make Sure You Enjoy It: If you are going to make more money working a second or third job. You should probably make sure you enjoy it to some extent. Nothing says “I want to blow my brains out” like working at a job you absolutely hate… let alone two or three of them.
  • Leave Your Comfort Zone: It is scary as hell to take risks and do things you’ve never done, but you have to realize at some point in time to get something you’ve never had before. You need to do something you’ve never done as well.
  • Commit To It: It won’t happen if you are not dedicated. Plain and simple.

I won’t try to paint a pretty picture when it comes to increasing your income.It is one of the hardest things in the world to do. Some get lucky and see results faster but the majority of success stories are years in the making. It’s actually a statistical fact that if you spent 20 years trying to become a millionaire, and failed you would still be better off than a person working till they are 65yrs old getting ready to retire. Just a little food for thought.

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