Monthly Archives: May 2012

Nice Guys: Understanding The Opposite Sex

As a nice guy understanding the opposite sex can be a bit of a task, especially if  you are looking to have any kind of relationship with them. Today we will cover a five things that every guy (especially nice guys) should know when dealing with any woman. So without further delay here is my list of things guys should know about women.

Women Lie Daily:

Guys…you must understand when you first come in contact with a woman you are probably being lied to. It could be anything from their actual personality, to their outward appearance, right down to what they say.

Now you are probably wondering why would they lie?

The truth is women absolutely hate to be viewed in any kind of negative light what so ever. Specifically by the majority. Rather than be their own individual, and not give a rat’s ass what strangers think. They will appear as this perfect woman that gets along with everyone and does everything right.

Never take anything a woman says or does for face value unless you have known them for some time and by some time I mean from childhood. Even then it’s probably not enough…

The Women’s Mind Is Always Changing :

Have you ever heard the saying “Women Are Just Fickle Minded Creatures”? If so then you are ahead of the game by leaps and bounds. Unfortunately for most nice guys this saying’s meaning has not completely sunk in, so allow me (being the nice guy that I am) to speed the process along.

No matter what you think women will, can, and have changed their minds in the blink of an eye. It doesn’t matter what the issue is, how tough of a choice, or it’s effects!

What does this mean for you? Well simply put it can mean you can be loved today and when you wake up tomorrow she hates your guts. Let’s put it this way… If there was a button that would end the world and she was in charge of it I would suggest that you live everyday as it was your last!

Women Act Based On How They Feel:

Yes it’s true, women lead with emotion and let me tell you it can be both good and bad at the same time. I’ve seen women cheat on their husbands simply because they were mad at them for something insignificant. I’ve seen women go on sex spree’s simply because they felt “naughty“. Hell, I’ve seen women get divorced simply because they felt bored! If you are married or have a girl friend burn this section into you skull.

Some of the stupidest things you can imagine they have done all in the name of feelings. Have you ever asked a woman why they did something and they say “Because I felt like it.”? Trust me it’s not a generic retort guys, and you must always be wary when it comes to dealing with women and their feelings.

Women Will Use You:

This one has always angered women but the truth is a woman will use you if she needs you whether or not she has any kind of interest in you. What does this mean? It means while you think you may be swooning her with flowers, candy, and dinner you really aren’t.

There are women out here that are getting cold hard cash from guys they meet over the internet! Getting treated to dinner from guys in which they have ZERO interest in being with and chances are you have fallen for this.

Don’t get discouraged in later posts I will give you proven methods of avoiding this pitfall in great detail.

Women Are Everywhere:

As a nice guy myself I know how it is to be stuck on one specific woman, in fact I’ve been there and done that. However like the great Tom Leykis says:

Women are like buses. If you miss one, just wait and there will be another one along in a few minutes.” – Tom Leykis

It may seem like a false statement if you are stuck on a certain female currently, but if she is not giving you the time of day start taking your time into consideration because it is very valuable. Never let one single woman take up all that time unless she is really making an effort to move mountains for you.

These five things are something that you must always keep in mind when dealing with women. While these five points don’t cover the entire female population  it most certainly covers the vast majority.

If you have or ever come across what I like to call “The Anomaly” you make sure you don’t take her for granted because that’s literally like finding fifty million dollars in your closet on eviction day.

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The Nice Guy: Defining The Stigma

Being a nice guy in 2012 can be difficult, in fact it’s probably one of the hardest things any man can do. You’re average nice guy today is considered to be at the bottom of every social ladder you can think of but the real question is why? In this post we will attempt to define in great detail “the nice guy stigma”.

Are you a nice guy?

Just so we are clear, below is a small questionnaire that will undoubtedly define the average nice guy. Each question is worth 10%, the higher your percentage the nicer you are. If you score 100% then that means you are one kind individual!

  1. Do you often go out of your way for friends,family, or women?
  2. Are you usually the “shoulder to cry on” when someone is down?
  3. Do you avoid most if not all conflicts?
  4. Do you have any female friends that are not from your childhood(5-12 yrs old)?
  5. Are you naturally shy?
  6. Do you want a woman for more than just sex?
  7. Is your morale compass pointed in the right direction 98% of the time?
  8. Do you find yourself being taken advantage of by just about everybody you know?(Be honest with yourself!)
  9. Do you prefer to be friends with a woman before you date?
  10. Do you try to avoid staring at a woman’s body because you don’t want to seem disrespectful?

If you answered yes to 8 or more of these questions consider yourself a grade A nice guy!  Now sans question #8, whats so wrong with a guy having these kinds of qualities? Seemingly nothing right? Well while it may appear normal to us (nice guys) the rest of the world see’s it in a completely different light. Allow me to clarify…

Through The Eyes Of Other Men:

In the eyes of less pleasant gentlemen (for some I use that term loosely) the nice guy is literally nothing more than a victim. He is the one that will always be considered a loser no matter how successful he actually is.

Through The Eyes Of Women:

In the eyes of (most) women us nice guys are simply door mats. We are the men they settle for once they have had their fill of “other men”, because they know we will gladly accept them once they are finished. It’s sad and unfortunately very true.

The Final Verdict:

It seems that the nice guy does have a lot of redeeming qualities, however these qualities mean just about jack squat to society. Maybe you are saying “To hell with society, I am great just the way I am!” and I agree, but unless you plan on living on an island or starting your own “nice guy and girl” community you are going to have to fully adapt to come out on top.

This blog will continue to delve deeper into the very core of the nice guy and start to adapt into a whole new breed that not only women will crave, but society as a whole as well. A little disclaimer for all readers, this blog will become very graphic depending on topic, real life stories, and strong language may be used in up coming posts. I can’t help my fellow man by restricting myself, so I will be giving it 100%. Stay tuned!

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